Sometimes somebody comes up with the question, "who would you advice or consider being a good Horseman".
It is tricky and very difficult to answer that, because it doesn’t only depend on who is “good” but also what and who do YOU need?
So most of the time, I try to dodge that question.
Mainly because I don’t want to make fun about a lot of people in the industry. That is kind of hard for me anyway, because I do have a strong sense of humor and a very sensitive stomach when it comes to freeloading on another living being.
But when I really get cornered and someone really wants an honest Answer, I'll answer;
If I feel I need help from a person who can teach me what I think I need, what do I do?
I probably go online and search for “Horsemanship”
It’s amazing to see how many hits my search engine produces on that query. Especially how many “Professional” trainers with loads of “Levels” almost jump in your face.
Thinking of those ads from people that graduated one or more levels on a method that is quiet famous, Left or right brained charted horses that suffer stupidity of humankind, always makes me think of those books that try to give you quick start on a subject.
You probably saw them too somewhere… “Cooking for Dummies”, “Word for Dummies” etc.…
And then I see a method being really spread for several years, which to me resembles the same drift…
Horsemanship for Dummies… Or people that chase a horse in a round pen just long enough until the horse is exhausted and gives up, comes towards the person who chased it, just to have some peace. Calling it a join-up afterwards and always want a hug from the horses owner.
- People, who are a little informed in the scene, know who I am referring to. Anyway, this kind of nonsense would not help the person that asked me the question.
So, seeing those results on my screen don’t really help me, and to be honest, it really would confuse me even more. So back to square ONE. Question number one;
- * who am I? * What do I want to learn?
- * Am I really open to learn, or do I just want to have my “skills” confirmed?
- * Do I know what I don’t know?
- * Do I want to know what I don’t know?
- * Am I willing and prepared to work on myself, or do I think my problems are the horses fault?
- * Do I want to have someone else fix the problems I have with my Horse?
- * Am I really honest about my Ego?
- * Am I smart enough to recognize commercial BS or do I leave the thinking part to someone else?
I do admit, that my comments are somewhat harsh, but then again, I do want to help, and I do it the best I can. That being said, if the reader is not offended and can see the value in those questions, we’re already in a good direction.
If you are able to answer those questions in all honesty to yourself, you already have the parameters set for finding a good mentor.
That mentor should not only match your horse but also should be able to present and teach the necessary knowledge in a way that your horse and you can learn in a way that both of you are happy with it. (You and your horse) Sometimes you’ll be surprised about the knowledge and quality that you can find with people that don’t seek the big attention, or are going for the big Money.
It doesn’t matter in what discipline you are active; the common denominator is always the horse.
So the quality of the horsemanship that you’ll learn is mostly dependent on your ability to be honest to yourself.